Background

Sometimes, there are so many things to say

that we can't focus and end up saying nothing.

Truth is, to explain things correctly to a person you need to give a lot of background around your main idea, but as you provide that background, you discover you need to give background to your background.

Either you quit, or you still try to say what you have to say, leaving with the idea that it was impossible for that person to understand you unless he/she is you father/mother.

It's like changing your dress code from tomboy childish girl, to fancy and chique.

You see those wonderful fashionable fancy boots.
But you realize you only have childish tomboyish clothes to combine.
You can't just buy the boots, you need decent pants.

But you realize you hate your t-shirts. They all have some kind of animal in them.
You can't just buy the boots and pants, you need a feminine white blouse.

Then you have everything, but in the Summer you sweat like hell.
You need more blouses.
And then comes Winter to remind you that you need more layers, and not a ugly fluffy raincoat like you used to have and that made you look like an esquimo.
You need an expensive jacket.

One year passes by, fashion changes, you hate your blouses now, and you are cash broke. Your ass is bigger and jeans no longer fit. And there goes, ad eternum.

It may sound like an exhagerated example, but this means that things are never that simple. When you ask someone what is wrong, when you see someone cry because something that happened, you can't expect to draw a conclusion based on one answer or moment. You need context, lots of it, you need to ask more questions and the right ones.
You need to be eager to listen and not eager to criticize.

This is for people that should know better than that.